Dear future husband 

A letter to the man I’ll spend the rest of my life with,

(I’m still waiting to meet you)

You should know that I can be hard to handle at times. I’ll probably annoy the hell out of you. I’ll change my mind a million times (but never about you or us). I’m really clumsy and I lose EVERYTHING especially when I’ve been drinking.

Sometimes (like right now) I talk too much. Other times I don’t talk at all (don’t take it personal). Sometimes it might seem like I want nothing to do with you (but that doesn’t mean that i don’t love you), it honestly doesn’t have anything at all to do with you. I like to have time to myself.

I get jealous (but I don’t speak on it) and can be insecure at times. From time to time I need your reassurance that you love ME! I have a lot of trust issues. Every single person (including my own parents) I have ever trusted, has betrayed me in every way they could. I’ll try to trust you as long as you don’t give me a reason not to

I have a rude sense of humor and I joke about the things that probably shouldn’t be joked about and I always say the wrong things at the worst of times, I don’t mean to. My mama always told me I should learn to think before I speak, I ain’t caught on to that yet.

 It takes a lot to piss me off, but once I am mad just let me calm down before we talk, if not I’ll end up saying a lot of things I don’t mean. I refuse to argue with you in front of anyone especially family or kids, I’m not one of those females that likes to cause a scene. Keep our personal life and personal business to ourselves please!

I need a man in my life that is willing to man up, yes I want you to tell me what to do (obviously I have no idea what I’m doing), that doesn’t mean control my every move just means you need to tell me what I should do. I need you to put me in my place and keep me in check when I start slack off. You’re the man you’re suppose to be the one to make the decisions, if I don’t like it I’ll disagree and tell u what I think – you lead and I’ll follow. Although, I do think some decisions we should make together.

If I’m your woman that means I got your back 100% of the time, even when you’re wrong. I wont disrespect you or embarrass you in front of anyone. I’ll always take up for you & stand up for you no matter the cost. I’m yours and nobody else’s, I’ll make you feel that at all times!  It means that I will come to YOU for anything and everything. No secrets and no lies! That I’ll be your best friend, the one person you can rely on at all times no matter what!

 I want you to always be honest with me and don’t keep anything from me. Yeah, leaving out details and not telling the whole truth is also considered lying. As long as you’re honest we can work through it anything. Just be honest, always! If I do something that upsets or angers you,  you should tell me so I know not to do it again! I promise to do the same. It’s important to have good conversation. Things will change over time and in the end all you’ll want is someone else’s company, their conversation.

I know that things wont always be perfect and I don’t expect them to be. My granny told me that amazing lasting relationships don’t just happen over night. They take a lot of work and patience. It’s about two people who care enough to MAKE it work even when you want to give up.

 I’m looking for forever, I’ve had enough of whatever. I’m ready to settle back down again and have that family life that I never really had.  Yes i want to get married some day but I don’t believe in divorce! I’ll be a widow before I’m a divorcee…just keep that in mind!

I promise that I’ll do the best I can for you. I’ll make your lunches, cook your dinner, do your laundry, and wash your truck! Most of all I promise to love you more and more everyday!

Love Always,
your future wife