What’s this life for

I wake up every morning at 4am. I fix his lunch. Make his breakfast and coffee. Drive him to work, even though I don’t have a license and im out on bond with 5 years over my head if I screw up again. I goto work. Come home to clean our temporary home. Wash his clothes. Goto the grovery store. Somehow I manage to squeeze in time to work out and tan before I gotta pick him up. I try so hard to look good for him. Most days we cant even make it home before he has something to accuse me of. I cook dinner. Clean the kitchen. By this time his mouth is too much to deal with. I keep a bottle of my favorite vodka in the fridge. It’s the only way I can numb the pain. Im stuck somewhere between saying fuck it and begging him not to leave. A person can only take so much. I’ve dealt with more than enough.

I wasn’t even able to get my glasses that I do desperately need because I spent all my money on him. He threw a bitch fit so I would buy him minutes for his phone. He didn’t want to be without. I don’t even have a phone. I ain’t had one in months.

What’s this life for anyway? To live miserably?  Obviously so.

Never again. I’ve come so far. Why let one insecure BOY ruin all that

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Something to think about

As we grow older, and hence wiser, we slowly realize that wearing a $300 or a $30.00 watch – – they both tell the same time. Whether we carry a $300 or a $30.00 wallet/handbag – – the amount of money inside is the same. Whether we drink a bottle of $300 or $15 wine – – the hangover is the same. Whether the house we live in is 300 or 3000 sq. ft. – – loneliness is the same. Whether you drive a $8,000 Honda or a $80,000 Benz –they both serve the same purpose. You will realize, your true inner happiness does not come from the MATERIAL things of this world.

Therefore, I hope you realize, when you have mates, buddies and old friends, brothers and sisters, who you chat with, laugh with, talk with, have sung songs with, talk about north-south-east-west or heaven and earth – – That is true happiness!!

SIX UNDENIABLE FACTS OF LIFE:

1. Don’t educate your children to be rich. Educate them to be happy. So when they grow up they will know the value of things not the price.

2. Best awarded words: “Eat your food as your medicines. Otherwise you have to eat medicines as your food.”

3. The One who loves you will never leave you because even if there are 100 reasons to give up he or she will find one reason to hold on.

4. There is a big difference between a human being and being human. Only a few really understand it.

5. You are loved when you are born. You will be loved when you die. In between, You have to manage!

6. If you just want to Walk Fast, Walk Alone! But if you want to Walk Far, Walk Together!

SIX BEST DOCTORS IN THE WORLD:

1. Sunlight

2. Rest

3. Exercise

4. Diet

5. Self Confidence and

6. Friends

Maintain them in all stages of Life and enjoy a healthy life.

The older we get, the fewer things seem worth waiting in line for.

Ever since we got back together I’ve had big dreams of getting our own place. I thought that was a dream of his too….

As weeks turned into months. I finally got a job. I admit, I blew my first check but, my second check went straight to a savings account. He still didn’t save a penny. 

One night, everything started becoming clear to me. I realized I was seeing through rose colored glass. 

A couple weeks after we got back together I found out he was cheating. I’m starting to get that same feeling again… 

Life ain’t no fairy tale

Most women love it when they’re getting along with their man, making memories that will last a lifetime.

Notice I said most. Meaning I don’t. I hate the good times we share together. It only makes it that much harder when it’s time for him to go. Sure, I’d like to think that maybe this time he’s here to stay but, let’s face it – life ain’t no fairy tale. Atleast for me it isnt.  

It always seems as if the things I cherish the most always get taken from me unexpectedly without warning. My happiness always seems as if it’s just out of my reach. If by chance I do get to grasp it, it’s only for a short time. Then I’m left crying all alone on my bedroom floor at 3 in the morning with nothing but a memory of what we used to be and a dream of what could’ve been.  

If we never had all those perfect nights, if you wouldn’t have held me so tight….maybe if you didn’t kiss me just right….maybe it wouldn’t hurt so bad after you’re gone. 

I wish I could enjoy these little moments for what it is at that moment. Instead I’m reminding myself not to get to comfortable. Telling myself that life ain’t no fairytale. 

When dealing with cops…

Traffic Stops and Your Rights
  First of all keep your license, registration and proof of insurance in an easily accessible place such as attached to your sun visor. The less time it takes for you to get to these items, the less time the officer has to look through your windows and snoop. When pulled over by a police officer stay in the car, turn on the cab lights and keep your hands on the steering wheel. Sit still, relax and wait for the officer to come to you. Any sudden movements, ducking down, looking nervous or appearing to be searching for something under your seat is dangerous! Just sit up naturally be still and try to put the officer at ease.
 Police officers like to ask the first question and that usually is, “do you know the reason I pulled you over?” The police officer is trying to get you to do two things, admit that you committed a traffic violation and to get you to “voluntarily” start a conversation with him. Remember the police officer is not your friend and should not be trusted! The only thing you should say is “I’m going to remain silent and am I free to go?”
 The police officer might start asking you personal questions such as “where are you going, where have you been and who did you see, ect.” At that point it’s the perfect time to exercise your rights by asking the police officer “AM I FREE TO GO?” There is NO legal requirement that American citizens provide information about their comings and goings to a police officer. It’s none of their damn business! Keep asking the police officers “AM I FREE TO GO?” You have to speak up and verbally ask the police officer if your allowed to leave, otherwise the courts will presume that you wanted to stay and talk to the cops on your own free will.
 Passengers in your vehicle need to know their rights as well. They have the same right not to talk to a police officer and the right to refuse a search “unless it’s a ‘pat down’ for weapons.” The police will usually separate the passengers from each other and ask questions to see if their stories match. All passengers should always give the same answer and say, “I’m going to remain silent and am I free to go?” Remember you have to tell the police officer that you don’t want to talk to him. It’s the law How long can a police officer keep you pulled over “detained” during a traffic stop? The Supreme Court has said no more than 15 minutes is a reasonable amount of time for a police officer to conduct his investigation and allow you to go FREE. Just keep asking the police officer “AM I FREE TO GO?
 A good time to ask  “AM I FREE TO GO,”  is after the police officer has given you a “warning or a ticket” and you have signed it. Once you have signed that ticket the traffic stop is legally over says the U.S. Supreme Court. There’s no law that requires you to stay and talk to the police officer or answer any questions. After you have signed the ticket and got your license back you may roll up your window, start your car and leave. If you’re outside the car ask the police officer, “AM I FREE TO GO?” If he says yes then get in your car and leave.

 

Car Searches And Body Searches
Remember the police officer wouldn’t be asking you, if he didn’t need your permission to search! “The right to be free from unreasonable searches is one of America’s most precious First Liberties.”
  Just because you’re stopped for a traffic violation does NOT allow a police officer to search your car. However if you go riding around smoking a blunt and get pulled over, the police officer smells marijuana, sees a weapon or drugs in plain view he now has “probable cause” to search you car and that’s your own stupid fault!
 Police officers swore an oath to uphold the U.S. Constitution and not to violate your rights against unreasonable search and seizureFourth Amendment.  Denying a police officers request to search you or your car is not an admission of guilt, it’s your American right! Some police officers might say, “if you have nothing to hide, you should allow me to search.” Politely say to the police officer “I don’t consent to a search and am I free to go?
 The police officer is allowed to handcuff you and/or detain and even put you in his police car for his safety. Don’t resist or you will be arrested! There’s a big difference between being detained and being arrested. Say nothing in the police car! Police will record your conversation inside the police car, say nothing to your friend and don’t talk to the police officers!
 If you are arrested and your car is towed, the police are allowed to take an “inventory” of the items in your car. If anything is found that’s illegal, the police will get a warrant and then charge you with another crime.

 

Police Pat Downs…
  For the safety of police officers the law allows the police to pat down your outer clothing to see if you have any weapons. If the police officer feels something that he believes is a weapon, then he can go into your pockets and pull out the item he believes is a weapon.
 A police officer may ask you or even demand that you empty your pockets, but you have the right to say “NO, AM I FREE TO GO?” There’s NO law that requires you to empty your pockets when a police officer “ask you.” The only time a police officer should be taking your personal property out of your pockets is after you have been arrested.
  
If a Police Officer Knocks at Your Door at Home-You Don’t Have to Open the Door!
 If the police knock and ask to enter your home, you DON’T have to open the door unless they have a warrant signed by a judge. “If the police have a warrant they won’t be knocking, they’ll be kicking in your door!” There is NO law that requires you to open your door to a police officer.*  Don’t open your door with the chain-lock on either, the police will shove their way in. Simply shout to the police officers “I HAVE NOTHING TO SAY” or just don’t say anything at all.
 Guest and roommates staying in your home/apartment/dorm need to be aware of their rights specially “college students” and told not to open the door to a police officer or invite police officers into your home without your permission. Police officers are like vampires, they need your permission to come into your home. Never invite a police officer into your home, such an invitation not only gives police officers an opportunity to look around for clues to your lifestyle, habits, friends, reading material, etc;  but also tends to prolong the conversation.

If you are arrested outside your home the police officer might ask if you would like to go inside and get your shoes or a shirt? He might even be nice and let you tell your wife or friend goodbye, but it’s a trick! Don’t let the police officer into your house!

 Never agree to go to the police station if the police want to question you. Just say, “I HAVE NOTHING TO SAY.”
 * In some emergency situations (for example when a someone is screaming for help from inside your home, police are chasing someone into your home, police see a felony being committed or if someone has called 911 from inside your house) police officers are then allowed to enter and search your home without a warrant.
 If a Police Officer Stops You On The Sidewalk…
 NEVER give consent to talk to a police officer. If a police officer stops you and ask to speak with you, you’re perfectly within your rights to say to the police officer “I do not wish to speak with you, good-bye. “New Law  At this point you should be free to leave. The next step the police officer might take is to ask you for identification. If you have identification on you, tell the officer where it is and ask permission to reach for it. “Some states you’re not required to show an I.D. unless the police officer has reasonable suspicion that you committed a crime.” Know the laws in your state!
 The police officer will start asking you questions again, at this point you may ask the officer“Am I Free to Go?” The police officer may not like this and may challenge you with words like, “If you have nothing to hide, why won’t you speak to me?” Just like the first question, you do not have to answer this question either. Just ask “Am I Free to Go?”
Police officers need your permission to have a conversation, never give it to them. There is NO law that says you must tell a police officer where you are going or where you have been, so keep your mouth shut and say nothing! Don’t answer any question (except name, address and age) until you have a lawyer.
 
Probable Cause…
  A police officer has no right to detain you unless there exists reasonable suspicion that you committed a crime or traffic violation.  However a police officer is always allowed to initiate a “voluntary” conversation with you. You always have the right not to talk or answer any questions a police officer ask you. Just tell the police officer “I’m going to remain silent.”
Under the Fourth Amendment of the U.S. Constitution, police may engage in “reasonable” searches and seizures.  To prove that a search is reasonable, the police must generally show that it’s more likely than not that a crime has occurred and that if a search is conducted it is probable that the police officer will find evidence of the crime. This is called “probable cause.”

Can We Trust Police Officers? Absolutely not! 
  Are police officers allowed to lie to you? Yes the Supreme Court has ruled that  police officers can lie to the American public. Police officers are trained at lying, twisting words and to be manipulative. Police officers and other law enforcement agents are very skilled at getting information from people. So don’t try to “out smart” the police officer or try being a “smooth talker” because you will loose! If you can keep your mouth shut, you just might come out ahead more than you expected.
  Teach your children that police officers are not always their friend and police officers must contact a parent for permission before they ask your child any questions. Remember police officers are trained to put you at ease and to gain your trust. Their job is to find, arrest and help convict a suspect and that suspect is you!
 The federal government created a law that says citizens can’t lie to Federal Agents and yet the government can lie to American Citizens. Makes perfect since doesn’t it? The best thing you can do is ask for a lawyer and keep your mouth shut. How can you be charged with something if you haven’t said anything?
  Although police officers may seem nice and pretend to be on your side they are wanting to learn your habits, opinions, and affiliations of other people not suspected of wrongdoing. Don’t try to answer a police officers questions, it can be very dangerous! You can never tell how a seemingly harmless bit of information that you give to a police officer might be used and misconstrued to hurt you or someone else. Keep in mind that lying to a federal agent is a crime. “This why Martha Stewart went to prison, not for insider trading but for lying to a Federal Agent.”
 Police officers may promise shorter sentences and other deals for statements or confessions from you. The police cannot legally make deals with people they arrest, but they can and will lie to you. The only person who can make a deal that can be enforced is the prosecutor and he should not talk with you without a lawyer present.
Lies That Police Officers Use To Get You To Talk…
 There are many ways a police officer will try to trick you into talking. It’s always safe to say the Magic Words: “Am I free to leave, if not I’m going to remain silent and I want a lawyer.”
 The following are common lie’s the police use when they’re trying to get you to talk to them:
*  “You will have to stay here and answer my questions” or “You’re not leaving until I find out what I want to know.”
*  “I have evidence on you, so tell me what I want to know or else.” (They can fabricate fake evidence to convince you to tell them what they want to know.)
*  “You’re not a suspect, were simply investigating here. Just help us understand what happened and then you can go.”
*  “If you don’t answer my questions, I won’t have any choice but to take you to jail.”
*  “If you don’t answer these questions, you’ll be charged with resisting arrest.”
* “Your friend has told his side of the story and it’s not looking good for you, anything you want to say in your defense?”
If The Police Arrest You…
“I DON’T WANT TO TALK UNTIL MY LAWYER IS PRESENT”
* Don’t answer questions the police ask you, (except name, address and age)until you have a lawyer.
* Even if the police don’t read your Miranda Rights to you, refuse to say anything until your lawyer/public defender arrives. If you “voluntarily” talk to the police , then they don’t have to read your Miranda Rights.
* If you’re arrested and can not afford an attorney, you have the right to a public defender. If you get a public defender always make it clear to the judge that the public defender is not representing you, but merely is serving as your counsel.
* Do not talk to other jail inmates about your case.
* Within a reasonable time after your arrest or booking, you have the right to make a local phone call to a lawyer, bail bondsman, relative or any other person. The police may not listen to the call to the lawyer.
* If you’re on probation or parole tell your P.O. you’ve been arrested and say nothing else!